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Chantel Brink
Chantel Brink
April 4, 2024 ·  3 min read

Pregnant Woman Wonders If She Is Wrong For Sitting On Man’s Hand After He Refused To Move It From Seat

It all started when a 30-year-old woman who was 8 months pregnant found herself in a situation where she was questioning bus etiquette. A man on the bus blatantly refused to give up his seat for her. Not the one he was actually sitting in, but the one his hand was resting on.

So the woman did what any millennial would do and sought out the support of other Reddit users. Where she provided her husband’s side of the argument that they had the previous night.

This brings forth the question on bus etiquette – was she wrong for deciding to sit on his hand when he refused to move it?

Posting in the popular subreddit, “Am I The A**hole” u/Tiredthriwaway55654 told her story:

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“I take the bus to work every day and oftentimes it’s packed, but I get lucky enough when decent folks volunteer their seats for me,” she writes. “Now I should mention that I [don’t] use my pregnancy as an excuse to get what I want but people just offer me their places by themselves which is kind and sweet.

It has always been bus etiquette that pregnant or elderly people are given the seat

Wednesday, I get on the bus like usual but this time there’s one empty seat, I go to sit but I find a guy in his business attire sitting there with his hand on the empty seat (sort of like resting it?)” she continues.

I say excuse me and ask him to remove his hand so I could sit, but he tells me the seat was ‘taken.’” It’s at this point that she get’s a bit more frank.

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Admitting she originally found it all funny, she reminds herself that she’s feeling unwell

“I had enough at this point, my legs were burning and my back was hurting. So I go ahead and sit on his hand,” she revealed. “He freaks out and tries to remove it quickly while shouting at me.” It was at this point that everyone around them began to stare. Which went on when he eventually got off the bus. It left her feeling shameful.

Her husband had quite a lot to say about the incident, blaming her, saying she “f–cked up” and that she was being totally inappropriate. Reddit however disagreed and had quite a lot to say regarding his view on bus etiquette.

“I hope you farted,” said one Redditor. “I can’t believe you stole the seat from his only lover!” said another, all giving her the “NTA” rating.

Subreddit post asking about bus etiquette
Image Credit: r/AmItheAsshole

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It didn’t stop there

“I really don’t understand the husband’s reaction,” said one user. While another said “Don’t know about you, but when my wife was 8m pregnant she could give two f–ks what was appropriate. I backed her all the way and I back you up as well.”

Subreddit post asking about bus etiquette
Image Credit: r/AmItheAsshole

She did however go on to clear up that he generally does back her up on things. Also stating that she’s sometimes a little irrational and that’s most likely why they had a disagreement. You can bet that she’d probably do the same thing again if faced with the same scenario!

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  1. “AITA for sitting on a man’s hand after he refused to remove it from the empty seat?” Reddit. April 4, 2022.

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