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“My Boyfriend Pays Our Rent And Bills – He Has No Idea I’m The Landlord”

Honesty is pretty important in a relationship, right? Unless you enjoy being lied to, or have an attraction to being kept in the dark, most people believe a healthy foundation starts with trust. Relationship experts point out time and time again the importance of honesty. Take a look at this excerpt from Marraige.com.

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When you trust your partner, you instinctively look for the good in them. Research published by Northwestern University and Redeemer University College found that trusting partners view each other as being more considerate than they are. Trust and honesty work in harmony, as do love and honesty. The more trusting a spouse feels about their partner, the less likely they are to recall negative experiences with them. So, as long as your partner treats you well and is always honest with you, this is a good thing! Trusting your partner helps you to feel safe, validated, and loved in your relationship. It also builds an excellent foundation for a healthy future together.

Marriage.com

However, the truth is that many of us are actually a bit dishonest with our partners. Take it from Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. from Psychalive.

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According to studies by Dr. Bella DePaulo, people lie in one in five of their interactions. Also, DePaulo’s research showed that dating couples lie to each other about a third of the time, while married couples do so in about one in 10 interactions. 

Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. | Pyschalive

So, how important is honesty in a relationship? Well, it’s pretty vital for healthy relationships.

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Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, not only because it helps us avoid harmful breaches of trust, but because it allows us to live in reality as opposed to fantasy and to share this reality with someone else. 

Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. | Pyschalive

But what happens when one person isn’t completely honest?

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Paying Rent

TikTok is where you can find the latest drama unfolding in real-time, and this story is no different. When TikTok user @jaynedoee0 posted a story about her relationship, it resulted in some heated debates.

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@jaynedoee0

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She’s been living with her boyfriend for about a year. He pays the rent and utility bills. However, what he doesn’t know, is that @jaynedoee0 is the landlord. That’s right, he’s paying the rent directly to her, and he has no idea.

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“I’ve lived here with my man for a year now. He pays the rent and all the bills. He has no idea that I own this place and have lived here for five years. So, his direct deposits are going straight to me.”

The clip has gone viral, with over 2 million views, and everyone has an opinion.

Read: Women Share What They Would Do If There Were No Men On Earth For 24 Hours

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Opinions

Naturally, the internet was more than happy to share their opinions with jaynedooe0. Some applauded her business sense and understood the money would be going to her mortgage. While others thought it was deceitful and implied she would spend it all on herself. Check out some of these comments:

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He’s your BOYFRIEND NOT husband and would’ve had to pay rent anyways, so I say good for you!! They just mad cuz they didn’t think of it first. Do you!

A relationship that (literally) has is foundation built on lies and deceit will never last.

Once he finds out. He will probably dump her because of trust issues.

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So, what do you think about this situation? Should she have been honest and explained the situation? Or, was she right for keeping it a secret? Let us know in the comments!

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Sources

  1. TikTok. Jaynedooe0
  2. Why Honesty in a Relationship Is So Important.” Marriage.com. Rachael Pace. July 13, 2021.
  3. Do You Have an Honest Relationship?PsychAlive. Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
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