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Jade Small
Jade Small
March 30, 2024 ·  5 min read

Women Are Sharing Their ‘I’m The Client, Not My Husband’ Stories And To Say I’m Fuming Would Be An Understatement

Nobody likes to be ignored. It’s a frustrating and annoying thing to experience. Being ignored by our partners, or our children, is one thing. But, imagine being ignored because you are a woman or because of your sex or race! If you can’t think of anything more infuriating than that, have a look at these stories from a few women who have been ignored in favor of their male partners. These ‘I’m the client, not my husband‘ stories are sure to make you livid.

On Reddit, a thread was started, asking women what their I’m the client, not my husband stories are. The thread received far too many responses and stories from women who’d had similar experiences of being ignored because the person they were talking to only wanted to speak to their husband.[1]

Here is a collection of I’m the client, not my husband stories, the one’s we thought were the most upsetting

This woman was ignored in her own home

Wasn’t my husband, not even my boyfriend, but a guy friend I happened to have round when a joiner came to fix something in MY home. I welcomed the joiner in, started talking to him about the issue, then he saw my friend and did a 180° to talk to him. He literally turned his back on me while I was mid-sentence. In MY home.”


Ignored by her own doctor

When I had my appendix taken out, I asked my doctor when sex would be okay again. He turned to my husband and said, ‘Whenever you feel ready, you can begin sexual relations again.'”

“I don’t know if he was uncomfortable talking to me about it or was deferring to what my husband would prefer. Either way, it was strange.

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This Woman at work

At work, I manage a few facility systems in our building (think air handlers, water purification, etc.) I was meeting a new vendor (let’s call him ‘Pat’) that was servicing one of the systems I was overseeing. Pat had already met the facilities engineer (also a man), so this coworker was introducing me to him. Instead of talking directly to me, Pat turned to my coworker after shaking my hand and asked him, ‘and what does she do here?’ A few weeks later, he had the unpleasant opportunity to learn that I’m the one who calls him when his company falls through and doesn’t deliver. Needless to say, I was not overly polite about it when Pat failed to do his job.”


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And this one, too…

I’m a female business owner with a male business partner. I’ve had a few customers and reps born in the Dark Ages who ask to ‘speak to my boss.'”

“The worst was a guy who snapped his fingers and told me to ‘put the kettle on, girly.’ Needless to say, he didn’t get his cuppa, and he certainly didn’t get the discount he asked for.”


Even at the post office!

“I was trying to collect a parcel from the post office that was addressed to both me and my husband. They told me that my husband had to come to collect it. I asked whether they meant both of us had to be there, and the response was no, just him.”

“Needless to say, I was not happy. After a while of arguing, they gave me the parcel.”

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I’m the client, not my husband – and that’s MY car

“One time, I described my car problem to the desk guy at the auto shop as a ‘clicking’ when I turned the key and asked if they’d check the timing belt. He said I’d have to leave my car there, so my husband arrived 10 minutes later to pick me up. The mechanic came out and asked him what was going on with the car, never looking at me.”

I finally asked if he’d checked the timing belts as I’d asked the guy at the desk to do. He had not. Gotta say, mad turned to cocky when it turned out to be the timing belt. This happens a lot with auto repair.


You gotta be kidding me…

“I once caught some hunters trespassing on my property. I wasn’t rude to them at all, I just waved from the other side of the field. The next day, they show up at my house. One gestures towards the police car in the driveway and asks to speak to my husband about hunting in our woods.”

I was like, ‘You can talk to him if you want, but that’s my cruiser, and this is my land, not his.’ They still insisted on getting permission from my husband.”


This Woman and her roof

“We wanted to replace our roof and had found a company that was running a promotion. I called and scheduled for someone to come out for a quote. I was able to answer all of his questions, but he refused to give me a quote without my husband present (with some ‘sign before we leave for best price’ excuse). He was intent on driving back over the following day when my husband would be home.”

I called their main office shortly after he left and told them that I wasn’t interested in any high-pressure sales tactics, I just wanted a quote, and if they wouldn’t give that to me, the one who would be paying for it, then to not bother coming back out. I didn’t see them again. The three other roofing companies I contacted had no problem dealing solely with me.”


After reading the above I’m the client, not my husband stories, we are actually really shocked to know how many women are dealing with this sort of thing in this day and age. These are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to men treating women like they don’t matter. How is it possible for men to treat women this way because of their gender and think it’s okay?

Do you have any I’m the client, not my husband stories? Let us know in the comments

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  1. Woman of Reddit, what is your, “I am the client, not my husband stop ignoring me.” Story?Reddit.